Have you ever had an experience where someone you trusted told you something that wasn't true, and you believed it, but later found out they lied?
This happens to most of us when we are told to be good for Santa. I remember the moment that created the first bit of doubt about Santa. I was six years old, and on Christmas morning, my mom handed me a letter from Santa.
I knew immediately that she had written it, and I told her so. I recognized her handwriting.
Well, she tried several times to convince me that Santa actually wrote it, but I knew better. She finally said he had asked her to write it for him, and our conversation ended, along with some of the blind trust I had placed in anything my mother told me.
Have you ever experienced that kind of shift?
And have there ever been beliefs you realized you were going to have to let go of because they weren't true?
My mother had a limiting belief I am not sure she ever completely let go of before she passed away, although I did my best to help her heal everything she told me she wanted to heal. I realize now it never came up.
Though she never claimed it as a motto, my mother lived by "never let 'em see you sweat." And she believed that my life would be better, too, if I could only separate myself from any painful feelings I was having.
Her way was to simply decide she was done with them or never let them encroach upon her in the first place. Nice work if you can get it, right?
And then, along comes her highly sensitive daughter who has a lot of deep feelings that need healing. She tried to talk me out of them, and I did my best to follow her example.
I believed that she was able to do it, and any woman worth her salt would find a way to be able to do it, too. I was never able to change the way I felt inside, but I did manage to create a peaceful-looking mask to wear outside, and by the time I was in grad school, no one could tell what I was thinking or feeling.
When I, a therapist at the time, got therapy myself, it helped me re-connect what was inside to what showed on the outside, and let go of the idea that I was suppose to live my life that way. It even helped me stand up to my formidable mother, the professor who never cried.
But it wasn't until I learned several energy healing techniques & processes that I was able to fully heal that belief, and the lower self-esteem that went with thinking I had failed to live up to that standard. As a result, my son does not have a mother who never cries.
Are there any limiting beliefs you want to unlearn?
"For those of you who aren't familiar with limiting beliefs, the basic idea is that you need to unlearn what's untrue. Limiting beliefs are often things we don't realize are an issue until we dive a little deeper. They are very powerful and come up almost automatically when something triggers them." ~ Julia Ralston
When I think of our country and the freedom we celebrate on the 4th of July, I feel grateful that we no longer belong to Britain, but I wonder if we have yet to fully belong to ourselves. Is everybody free and independent?
Are minority children and adults completely free to pursue happiness? What about the LGBT community? And women, I know we've come a long way, baby. But have come far enough?
I think the process of becoming truly free is not yet finished.
But that's a big story view of freedom in our country. What about each individual citizen? Like you, beloved.
Do you feel free?
Are You Still Becoming Free?
When I ask that question, I am talking about internal freedom, but am not leaving out how it might be influenced by what's happening externally. If women make less money than men do, then that is part of the story of their search for financial freedom, right?
But let's look inside for a moment.
How free do you feel to create the day, week, month, or life you most want? How free do you feel to answer the call, or calls, you hear in your heart?
Is there anything in the way?
And of the things might be holding you back, which ones could you change?
Let yourself ponder these questions and see if any shifts occur. Peace about what is currently outside your control, or inspiration to change one or two of the things you can.
See you next time!
Before reading this post, take a deep breath or three, and let yourself relax. Imagine that you are walking through the door and closing it behind you, to let go of any stress or tension you have experienced today. Now that that door is closed, you can take another breath and sink into peace.
Now, I want to ask you a few questions, and I want you to listen closely to the answers that come to mind. Breathe slowly and spend a minute getting as clear as you can.
(1) Who did you come here to be? If you were the very best version of who you are, what would that look like & feel like, from the outside and inside?
(2) What did you come here to do? What gifts are you here to offer? If you were living and breathing your purpose full out, what would that look & feel like?
I am thinking through these questions, too, every time I see them. Because I often get new insights as I answer them again.
I think clarity and insight about why we're here often unfolds over time. Do you agree?
So it's always good to prime the pump from time to time.